Hey everyone, I'm sorry I'm such a flake. I know I said I was going to write the next day and didn't...so much has been going on lately, my life is just kinda crazy at the moment! LoL...moment yea right! So I'm going to do 2 posts today to try to catch everyone up on what's been going on.

Fist of all I don't know if any of you remember me telling you about my aunt who owes me my inheritance money or not, but anyway... I talked to her once or twice over the holidays (she got in contact with me) and I have been stressin out as usual and I decided to e-mail her to ask her for a little life advice basically. Next I'm going to post my letter and the I'm going to post her response. So here it is.

Hi Aunt Susan--
Well, I guess I should start by telling you that my head and chest x-ray's came back normal. Last time I talked to you I was on my way to have those done. The doctors still don't know what's wrong with me though...My white blood cell count is still high.

You know when Nicole told me that you sent her a card I was really happy that you actually wanted to see how we were doing and even get in touch with us. I know there has been a lot of issues and drama in the past. Ever since I turned 18 and became an "adult" my life has been so hard and complicated. There have been many times I wished I had someone like you I could turn to for help and advice, and I don't mean just for money.

I have taken so many wrong turns in my life I don't even know where to begin to fix it. Things are awful for me out here in Vegas. It's a long story, but trust me that things are not good here! I talk to my dad all the time, and I told him that I want to move back up there. He is not much help though. It's like he cares but at the same time he has to worry about his own life. I know I am an adult but, I just don't know what to do with myself. I want to come back to california so I can go back to school. Basically it's like this... I'm not working right now. I was working at Macy's and before I moved out here I had a pretty good job at Fry's in concord. I have no one to watch Matthew and I have no money to pay for child care. the welfare department doesn't pay for that here in Nevada. I don't have a car. I just don't even know where to start.

I don't even know what I'm really asking, maybe for some advice or maybe you could make some suggestions, help point me in the right direction. I know my situation is confusing cause I can't really write it so it's understandable. I could have explained it better in person or on the phone, but I just don't want you to think I only want money or anything like that, because that's just not true. You are probably the smartest person i know. You have always had a good job and a great life. I do know you have worked very hard to get the things you have. I just figured it couldn't hurt to write you. If you can't help me that's fine. I would still like to keep in touch because I am honestly happy to have some communication with you. I love you and hope to hear back from you soon... no matter what!

Love Always,
Ashley

Now her reponse :

Hi Ashley -

I'm very sorry you are having so many troubles. I'm going to try to write this in a way that doesn't sound harsh because I don't mean it to be harsh - just honest.

You are a woman and a mother. Your first responsibility, I am sure you know, is for your son. If that means you have to live where you don't like to live, work where you don't like to work and go to school at night - then being an adult means you do whatever it takes to work, put yourself through school if that will improve your situation so that you can get a better job - and sometimes it means putting up with a crappy arrangement in the meantime.

When I was 18 I lived in an apartment full of cockroaches and no hot water. I worked my butt off and didn't have a car that ran. My parents didn't help me out because they didn't like who I was married to. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do -- but I learned something. I had to figure it out, make it work and rely on myself. But once I did that, I knew I never had to ask anyone for help again.

I don't think sending money helps you. I kept giving your Dad money and I think I made it worse because he always just thought "Susan will help me out if I need it" - and I always did. It let him continue with drugs and continue to not take responsibility for his life.

I will always be happy to talk to you and try to give you advice if it helps.I really do care about you.

I'm really sorry if this isn't what you wanted to hear Love, Aunt Susan

Okay now for those of you who don't know the whole story. My grandma left me money when she died, my aunt was the executer of her will and was responsible for handling the money well she told me that she invested my money and lost everything when the stock market dropped a few years back. So I never got my money as well as my sister and brother.

Any thoughts, opinions, advice or LAWYERS???

Love Always, Ashley